How to be a good ally

We asked disabled people what non-disabled people could do to be a good ally.

We have put what they told us into 10 top tips.

  1. Listen to disabled people.
    If you're not sure, ask! Do not make assumptions or finish someone’s sentences for them!
  2. Not all impairments and conditions are visible.
    And some change. You may not be able to see them, but they’re still there.
  3. Think about your language.
    Don’t use ableist terms like ‘idiot’, and call these out when you hear them.
  4. Champion accessibility and inclusion.
    Especially at work. Ask what access needs someone might have, like receiving presentations before a meeting.
  5. Educate yourself.
    Read and learn about the advantages and benefits you experience as a non-disabled person and how to champion disabled people’s rights.
  6. Speak out.
    If you see or hear bullying or discrimination, speak up or report it.
  7. Don’t push.
    If someone says they can’t do something or aren’t feeling up to it, even if they look OK, don’t put them under pressure to change their mind.  
  8. Never assume someone is exaggerating or ‘faking it’.
    Just because you can’t see someone’s condition, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist.
  9. It’s OK to ask questions.
    But remember to ask something you’d be happy to answer yourself! 
  10. Everyone is different.
    Not every disabled person will have the same views and preferences on these tips. And that's OK. 

 

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